Short and to the point. When you don't ask, you don't know shit.
Changes occur in each phase.
We hit new phases without warning
Transitioning is hard
Sometimes it is unknown to the one.
Common sense would say that if you are connected, you will see and share. That is not the case for us.
I know a lot.
I used to Share a lot.
I stopped sharing completely.
I have never had a close relative ask for honest conversations about what happens; I'm only condemned for the confusion that comes with Alzheimer’s. I am to blame.
Today looks much different than last November and before. Today I do not try. We simply live life to the best we can without help or interest from The Others.
Did The Others offer up ideas to the attorney hired ( at their insistence) who offered up mediation for a fucked up reality of the stupidity created for no reasons?
No. There has been no communication. Except a few months back when a different challenge came. They needed my help. I was glove deep in color when she was called. They put her in stress, caused all of us to have to scramble, the hubby came home early so that I could leave and fix what they couldn't do. Of course, this ends with, I did the things and still caught drama and 'you’re dead to me. I'm so done with you.”
I am not here to throw shade, simply put levity to a never ending saga of stupid texts sent to her for creating mass confusion and heart ache. When will they learn?
What goes in text~ stays there to be re read!!! Over and over again like the Bible. It's evil and vile to make us watch the destruction it creates each time. The thing that breaks never to be repaired.
The Take Away:
Maybe don't vent to a person with short term memory loss via texts. It's cruel and abusive.
Maybe spend time getting to know the now~ instead of rehashing the endless cycle of she's bad and we don't like her boundaries.
Maybe ask what's really going on and be open to the possibility that what you don't know ~ you should know.
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