I am the brick wall.
I will not mince words. I am done trying to explain and defend. I will not bend. I will not change. The ones who know; Know. The ones who don't; won't. Pick a lane.
The fight: Boundaries.
The resolution: Boundaries
The workaround is this:
Schedule through the attorney or me.
Pick her up and have a meaningful outing with fun and new memories created.
You will not hang out here. The dysfunction, stealing, absence of trust, and misdirected frustration will not be exacerbated because certain entitled intertwined relationships are unable to adapt to the deterioration of the matriarch's short-term memory caused by a severe and protracted illness in her brain.
Is it my problem that you are too busy for a Starbucks run through the drive-thru?
Nope. Please don't put your selfish acts and words on me. I won't have it.
The reason for the attorney: All of the others!
After exhausting every possible avenue of communication, from calmly explaining to fervently pleading, from begging to heated arguments and even physical altercations, I find myself at a breaking point where only a select few can truly understand the depth of my struggle.
The relentless stress inflicted by the circumstances and the individuals involved in this situation takes a toll, manifesting in detrimental effects on the mental well-being and physical vitality of the individual seeking resolution. It is a heavy burden to bear, one that weighs heavily on the mind and body.
This plea for help and understanding is not selfish; it is a cry for support and compassion in a time of dire need. The focus has always been finding a resolution, alleviating the pain, and finding a way forward.
It is a simple yet crucial ultimatum: either stand by my side and work towards a solution together or respectfully step aside and allow those willing to help to take the reins. The choice lies in your hands, a decision that holds the power to shape the outcome of this challenging situation.
Experts, Google, and support groups all recommend taking action. So, either take action or don't—it's up to you.
The argument: "I don't wanna do the things. I don't have to. You can't tell me what to do."
The answer: I can. I will. I am.
For one person, mental health and longevity.
‘I am now being told that I can't take you to lunch anymore unless I schedule through Lesli or her Lawyer, so not sure how I am supposed to get around that one.’
There is no workaround.
I am the brick wall. You won't break me for your gain. Nothing said today will change the narrative of the last four years.
The delusion: Lesli is keeping us from her.
The truth is that Lesli sets boundaries to maintain a peaceful life for 23 1/2 hours daily, 168 hours weekly, and 672 hours monthly.
If you don't like the words I use: don't read them.
If you disagree with how I respond to your account of the past years, it's too late. Compromise became impossible a couple of years ago and won't return. If your 'friends' support you, that's fine.
Here is my response to everything:
Experience my daily life: hour by hour, day by day, week by week, month by month, and then advise me on how to adapt to your preferences. Until then, keep quiet and focus on overcoming your own challenges without making things difficult for others.
Maintaining a stress-free lifestyle is crucial. By living in a protective bubble of safety, we foster an environment conducive to longevity and equilibrium, filled with serenity and positivity.
"Don't you think you are being a little extreme?"
No, I think you are all selfish and show a disgusting display of perceived entitlement that was never okay and cannot exist in our reality.
In conclusion:
Be mad at me and resent me. Be embarrassed by your own words and be 'done' with me. I have no problem being 'dead to you.'.
My resolve is firm, and I won't bend. Don't forget who I am. I'm the one who puts in 24/7 - I'm the one here. I'm the one who put my life on hold to do all the things needed for quality of life and a fun ride on the longest road. There are no serious problems in this memory care unit for one, until you add the others.
This is not a complaint. This was a choice.
I agreed without discontent.
My Husband is family. He is MY FAMILY. He is NOT an outsider looking in. There are no 'blinders' on or 'heads in the sand'. He does more than y'all ever could or would. He will not try to 'reign me in'. He and I are a team. Coming at me, you are coming for him.
Come at me all day long. You leave him alone!!
If you don't like the public display of discontent- shut the fuck up and go live your life.
Want to turn me in - TURN ME IN!
Collaborate with me. Cease opposing me. I am unbreakable. I am unbendable.
Welcome to my TED Talk or whatever the hell you want to call it. Until you understand, it will not change.
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