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How to Balance Alzheimers Caregiving and Holiday Celebrations in Christmas 2023

Every year, navigating through the complexities and challenges of the holiday season becomes a daunting task. This recurring theme of difficulties and obstacles is not a new phenomenon. The period leading up to Thanksgiving this year was particularly tumultuous, characterized by a whirlwind of dramatic events that seemed to unfold relentlessly. These dramas, although not of one's own making, often fall into one's lap, necessitating a role of problem-solving and unwavering support in order to maintain a semblance of peace and harmony.


The anticipation and excitement that once accompanied the holidays have now been replaced by a sense of duty and obligation. The absence of family members and long-time friends has cast a shadow over what used to be a joyous time, transforming it into a laborious chore rather than a source of joy. The disruption of the usual routine has proven to be challenging to adapt to, further complicated by a lack of understanding and support from those who claim to know better.


Attempts to alleviate the stress and inject some enjoyment into the season, such as reaching out with a thoughtful message, are often met with responses that are less than satisfactory. The indifference towards addressing her needs is a glaring issue that cannot be easily overlooked.


Questions like "Any other issues we need to know about?" may be posed, but the genuine concern behind them remains questionable. The unspoken burdens and grievances that weigh heavily on her mind are left unexplored, dismissed as unnecessary, or even deemed as unwarranted attacks by those who fail to comprehend the depth of the situation.


Meanwhile, as others gather to celebrate and congratulate themselves on their efforts, unaware of the inner turmoil and doubts that plague her, she grapples with the decision to participate in festivities that no longer hold the same meaning or sentiment as they once did. The stark disparity between the past memories of joyful Christmases and the current reality only serves to deepen the sense of disillusionment and isolation.


Once she leaves, they will likely discuss my faults and question my sanity upon her return to the beloved cottage. By nightfall, I may be labeled as evil, with the gifts I gave her going almost unnoticed, despite their significance to her. The focus is on dressing appropriately and feeling comfortable, with attention given to makeup and hair to disguise her increasing forgetfulness. Despite the desire to spend time together, the priority is maintaining peace, which can only be achieved by being in a separate company.


There will never be a return to before, the past is the past and no matter the side you sit on - won't change. My story is 3-sided with a healthy dose of reality from multiple perspectives... the others seem to find their path and narrative that fits best.


Reflection of 2023 is coming to an end. Next week is 2024 and the newness of a new year is not lost on all who pay attention. 2024 is gonna be a wild ride for so many reasons. Just wait for it...



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